“I’ve always been a tomboy. Early on in our marriage, my husband bought me a hairbrush and a makeup brush set for Valentine’s Day. The intention was noble. How it was perceived, not so much. I’m pretty sure I cried.” — Melissa R.

The better option: Play to her interests. If she likes to bake, buy her a new set of bakeware. If she loves adventure, take her bungee jumping.